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Dating After Divorce: Tips & Tricks for Getting Your Mojo Back

October 12, 2020

Going through a divorce can affect people a number of different ways. Some people are ready to get back into the dating game right after the papers are signed. Others can’t even think about dating for a long time. Either way, it’s important to wait until you really feel comfortable about getting back into the dating scene before putting yourself out there again. Once you decide it’s time to meet new people, you might feel a little nervous and apprehensive. 

That’s why we’re offering a guide to getting back into the Pittsburgh dating scene after a divorce. 

4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Start Dating Again

Before heading back to the Pittsburgh dating scene, you should reflect on your current emotional state

young couple on a lunch date

Before you step back into the Pittsburgh dating scene, you should reflect on your past relationship while also thinking about what you want in a new relationship moving forward. This can help you move back onto a path toward an exciting adventure filled with new relationships. 

  1. Are you really over your ex?
  2. Do you know what you want in your next relationship?
  3. What did you feel was missing in your last relationship?  
  4. How do you feel about yourself?

These questions will help you determine whether you are really ready to start dating again. If you realize you still have feelings for your ex or you want to date to compensate for the hole left in your life from the divorce, you might want to wait a little. There is nothing wrong with taking time to move on from the divorce and figure out what you want — and need — in your next relationship. 

Tips for Successfully Entering the Pittsburgh Dating Scene

For some people, it’s been a while since they’ve gone on a first date

a couple on a date drinking wine

Are you officially ready to get back into the Pittsburgh dating scene? Going on dates can be exciting, but also extremely nerve-wracking. Before you go out and meet new people, don’t forget these helpful tips on stepping back into the dating scene. 

Don’t be afraid to take it slow

If you are looking for a committed relationship, you need to take the time to really get to know someone. There is no reason to rush when it comes to dating. If the person is right for you, it will be worth the time you take getting to know them. And if you start to feel overwhelmed from the Pittsburgh dating scene, you can take a step back and restart when you are ready. 

Keep an open mind

Some people have a specific “type” of person they look for when dating. But relying on a single type can close you off from meeting some great people. Therefore, you should try to keep an open mind when dating. Don’t be afraid to spend time with someone who has different interests than you do — you may be surprised as to what may transpire!

Look your best so you can feel confident on the inside

First dates are the perfect opportunity to pamper yourself and dress up a little bit. Whether you have been looking for an excuse to wear that new dress hanging in your closet, or you want to suit up for the night, dressing up for the first date can make you feel confident and ready to go! 

The type of outfit you end up picking will depend on what venue you head to for your first date. If you are going to an upscale restaurant, you will want to wear something sophisticated, yet comfortable. You don’t want to feel suffocated by your dress or deal with itchy fabric against your skin while you are trying to get to know your date. Even if you go on a coffee date, you should look your best. Casual jeans and a blouse can look great when paired with a natural make-up look! 

Try a professional matchmaking service

Meeting people through social networking apps or mutual friends is often a hit or miss. More often than not, you find yourself spending time with a stranger who you have little in common with. This can be frustrating for both parties. 

At The Modern Matchmaker, we help our clients find suitable matches based on their values, interests, and lifestyles. Our professional team of matchmakers offers personalized attention to each client to pair them with potential partners that meet their ‘perfect match’ requirements. Once the matches are made, and the clients agree to meet, we make the introductions. After that, it’s up to the clients to decide for themselves whether they want to take the relationship further. 

Dating after going through a divorce can be challenging. Some people might fear they will never meet the right person. But this simply isn’t true. At The Modern Matchmaker, our job is to pair you with someone who matches your unique lifestyle and interests. All of our clients are smart, driven, and financially secure. Before matching you with someone, we will schedule a meeting with you to discuss your profile and perfect match requirements.

To learn more about our professional matchmaking services, contact us today!

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